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别让坏习惯支配你的一切

本文系转载。原文(繁体)自:http://stupid77.com/life/change_bad_habit.html,作者:awang

BBF注:我很喜欢这篇文章,对我绝对是一剂良药。虽然我早也明白此中道理。记得十年前在上大学时看过一个访谈,里面有位人说“成功其实是种习惯。”当时第一次看到先是惊讶,怎么有这种定义成功的?之后很快明白了。这篇文章也解释的很清楚。
习惯就象一个钻头。好习惯就是好钻头。有了这个钻头,还需要的就是看更多的各种不同的书,增大钻头的面;还需要不断思考,保持持久的专注力,加深钻的深度。这样,成功哪怕是再深的泉水,有一天也能被钻到,喷涌而出。
从这个角度想,世界的确是不公平的,因为每个人都有不同的习惯;世界其实也是公平的,也是因为每个人都有不同的习惯。

每个人每天早晨可能会赖床或是准时起床,之后刷牙洗脸盥洗,可能吃中式的早餐丶也可能是吃西式的早餐,或是不吃早饭。吃早饭後就可能坐公车丶或者走路或是 自己骑车开车去上班。上班途中,有人喜欢边听音乐,有人可能啥都不作,就是在发呆,也可能有人很上进在看书。到公司以後,有人马上就投入工作,有人可能会 先坐下来发呆半个小时再开始工作。工作时,有人会先做计画,自己能够掌握整个工作的节奏,有人可能等着主管交代事情才开始。不上班休假时,可能有人去逛 街,有人可能在做家事,也有人可能在看书,有人可能去学习其他很多的东西。

这些平常的行为举止看似自然,但久而久之就不知不觉变成习惯,等到你养成习惯以後就很难改变。举例来说,从小受地域生长环境养成的生活习惯,北方人可能习 惯吃面,习惯泠丶干躁的气候。南方人可能习惯吃饭,习惯比较热丶潮的气候(四川人可能喜欢吃辣,广州人可能喜欢吃淡等等)。因此,吃面食的人可能对吃饭食 不习惯,南方人不习惯北方的气候,北方人不喜欢南方的气候,也就是很多人说的水土不服。延伸来说,一个拥有健康身体的人,他必定拥有很多健康的好习惯,例 如生活作息正常,不过度抽烟,常运动等等…

这些不知不觉养成的小习惯,往往对你的未来影响其实很大。我个人认为这里面蕴涵了许多值得思考的道理。如果你仔细去分析一个人在生活上丶工作上的小习惯, 就会发现有一些是对工作能否「成功」而言是很好的习惯,例如,喜欢阅读丶在工作上会做工作计画丶工作很主动丶很细心丶很有创造力等等。当然,也可能会有一 些「不会让他成功」的习惯,例如上班会迟到丶常常要等待领导交代工作丶工作不够细心等等。

如果把这个人所有的小习惯做汇整,逐一去捡视,所有趋向成功的正面习惯总和如果大于不成功的负面习惯的总和时,可以推测,这个人将来会成功的几率就会比别 人大。也就是说,拥有比较多好的工作习惯的人,在工作上会比其他人更容易有突出的表现及成就,因为好的工作习惯带来的工作绩效,会让他更容易得到公司的认 同。

对公司企业也是一样,当你把一个企业里面很多的企业行为做分析,例如一个企业里面拥有好习惯的员工比拥有不好习惯的员工还要多,或者是当一个企业的企业行为被客户肯定要比被客户抱怨还要多时,当然这个企业在市场上要比其他企业更容易成功。

一般人可能很少有机会好好静下来思考你的这些小习惯,对你将来所要追求的目标到底是产生正面的还是负面的作用?我想要阐述的观点就是,如果你想要成为一个 成功的人(或许你可以去观察那些你的目标成功人群有哪些正面的习惯),当你具备有让你成功的小习惯大过於让你不成功的小习惯,你成功的机率就比较高。相反 的,如果你身上老是有很多不成功的小习惯,你不能成功的结果,就像是必然的了。(当然可能还有极少数的人可能没有太多的好习惯,但依然做得不错,这种人, 我们只能推论他可能「运气」比较好,然而运气是可遇不可求,是无法去掌握的,是极少数人能碰上的。)

我个人认为,一个成功的人士一定是他有良好的丶正面的工作习惯,再加上他个人的努力,才可能达到成功。如果你想要在工作上比别人更能被认同,你就要思考一 下自己在工作中的小细节,是不是具备有很多好的工作习惯?这些习惯其实需要自己经常去反省捡讨的,累积很多好的习惯之後,它会带给你比别人更多更正确的通 往成功的方向。因此,一个人要成功,当然就必须打破旧有的习惯领域,也就是去改变我们的习惯领域,从根本去改变我们习惯的思维模式,要把不好的习惯排除, 多养成一些好的丶正面的习惯。

这个观念在组织中尤其重要,你所带领的团队将会是什麽样的团队,必然跟你的领导习惯领域很有关系。如果一个领导者具备有的领导习惯领域是能够多听他人的意见,甚至是容忍丶接受他人的「异见」,可以推测你所带领的工作团队,将是一个具有丰富创意的团队。

除此之外,不仅要将习惯领域转变为正面的,还要扩大正面的思维习惯领域。就像骑脚踏车,如果一直在房子里骑,骑也骑不快,原因是受到区域的限制。这时惟有 突破疆域到屋外去骑,打破限制,才能海阔天空。一个人如果常常能突破性地扩大正面的思维习惯领域,将会使自己萌生许多有效的丶杰出的创意。

我认为常常去思考自己的习惯领域,进而去打破旧有的丶去养成新的丶扩大正面的习惯领域是很重要的事,因为如此一来,每次看事物都是用新的眼睛去看新的世 界,即使是旧的世界,都可以发现新鲜事。如果我们能懂得去打破旧有想法的习惯领域,就能通过正面的习惯领域,激发进取丶乐观和希望,勇敢地面对新的挑战, 让自己有更多接近通往成功的机会。

 

 

BBF注:很有趣,几乎在第二天,我发现一位老外也现身说法写了差不多同样的一篇文章,关于习惯。
也转载到这里。愿意看的就一起看看吧。
原文地址:http://www.aharrisonbarnes.com/your-habits-determine-the-outcome-of-your-life/
作者:Harrison Barnes

When I was younger, I was reasonably good at tennis and would have been capable of being an exceptional player if I developed the correct habits.

By the age of 15 I had developed a serve so strong that even professional tennis players had difficulty returning it with any consistency.  The problem with this serve was that I only got it in around 30% of the time (and I had a horrible second serve).  I also had an extremely good forehand that was devastating to my opponents.  In a similar manner, the forehand -when I hit it, my hardest did not go in nearly as much as it should have.During my eighth grade, I was regularly beating players in my age group who were ranked in my state.  On at least a few occasions, I beat tennis players that were considered among the top 20 or so in the state for my age group.  My father realized I had a lot of potential and after I completed eighth grade, he took me to a private tennis instructor and arranged for me to get at least a few lessons per week for the entire summer.

I started playing with the instructor and I remember him telling me that I had the potential to be very good but I would need to develop different habits.

Instead of hitting the ball hard, I had to start lobbing it more often (making it harder for kids my age to return).

  • Instead of hitting harder serves, I had to concentrate on getting them in.
  • Instead of using a two handed backhand, I need to learn a one handed back hand.
  • Instead of standing upright when I hit the ball, I needed to concentrate on leaning forward.
  • Instead of standing upright after a shot, I needed to get down lower on my knees.

What the pro was talking about was the need to develop new habits and ways of playing.  He told me that if I did not develop these sorts of habits, I would never be able to be a great player.  I doubted the pro at the time and did not believe him.  I ignored his advice and believed that my current habits and ways of playing were very good.  After all, I had beat lots of exceptional players.  Even the pro had trouble returning my serve.  Maybe he was trying to sabotage my game because he was jealous!

I started skipping the tennis pro’s scheduled lessons.  I fought his efforts to change my game.  I believed I would be just fine the way I was.

When I got into ninth grade, I tried out for the varsity tennis team.  During the winter, I had been playing in an indoor club and had played tennis against many of the varsity players—some of who were now seniors and much older than me.  Since I had been able to beat many of these players, I figured I would have no problem making the varsity tennis team.

When I tried out for the varsity tennis team, I made the team—at first.  I thought I had made the team until about a week after everyone had been cut.  After practice, one day, the coach came up to me and told me she was cutting me.  She told me that I would “lose more than I won,” because of my bad habits.  Furthermore, she said that if I wanted to be on the team the following year, I would have to spend the next year working on the same the pro the summer before had told me I would need to work on.  Essentially, I was “cut” because I had such bad habits.

Sadly, instead of working on my habits, I quit tennis and never played again all through high school.  Why? I was afraid to change my habits and work on good habits.

How many thing have you quit in your life because you could not develop good habits?  How many times have you given up on something because you could not develop good habits?

Let me tell you about an experience I had with habits that changed my life.  The same year I got bumped from the tennis team, I also failed ninth grade—and received one of the biggest wake-up calls of my life.  I was taking Algebra and Spanish that year.  Each night there was homework in these classes and I did not do the homework.  Why?  When I was little, I had taken all of these IQ tests and been told how smart I was. I’d also gotten very good grades before then without studying.  Who needs homework?

So, instead of doing homework each night, I watched television and did other things.  Within a few months of starting these classes, I was way behind and could never catch up.  You can never catch up in a class like Algebra or Spanish if you do not do the homework and memorize what you are supposed to.  This is what happened to me.

This is what happens when you do not develop good habits.  You fail at things that you should be succeeding in.  You fail not because you are not smart enough or talented enough—you fail because you develop bad habits.

When I started my next year of school, my father required me to study from 7:00 to 11:00 pm each night.  I was not allowed to watch television or anything else.  He required me to develop good habits and these habits ended up changing the direction of my life.  To my astonishment, within the next several years, I had become a great student, considered smart, and was a completely different person.  This was all because of habit.

I have been taking yoga lessons recently and am enjoying it.  Yoga is actually a very complex discipline and the postures involved in yoga can take years to develop.  Last night, I was in a class and the teacher stopped me in the middle of a pose.  The teacher told me to do only half of the pose until I was able to do the entire pose correctly.  The message was: Do not develop the habit of doing something wrong.  Start from the beginning and do only as much as you can do correctly.  Once you have developed the correct habit, then and only then should you attempt more.

When most of us think of habits, we think of the sorts of habits that hurt us—things like smoking cigarettes, driving too fast, and so forth.  We rarely consider other, more helpful habits we develop such as flossing our teeth, stopping at stop signs, or showering each day.  There are tons of habits we can develop that can help us a great deal such as saving money, working a certain amount each day, exercising a given number of hours per week, meditating, taking self-improvement classes, reading, and more.

Setting goals and taking consistent action towards those goals is an example of a helpful habit.

The beauty of habits is that unlike anything else in this world, they can help us make massive and profound transformations in everything that we do.  Power comes from taking a small action each day towards an objective.  In order to achieve any goal of significance, you need to take smaller and smaller steps towards it each day.  You need to refine what you are doing.

One of the most important things you can ask yourself is whether your habits empower you, or hold you back.  The habits you have and adopt will determine the outcome of your life.  Similarly, a lack of habits will dramatically affect your life.  Habits will determine whether you are

  • successful or unsuccessful
  • happy or sad
  • rich or poor
  • healthy or unhealthy
  • excited or bored
  • alone or with someone
  • in peace or stressed out

In fact, the more you examine your habits, the more you will realize that these habits are having an impact on what happens in your life.  Some people have bad habits; other people have no habits at all.

In truth, the only difference between those who have failed and those who have succeeded lies in their habits.  Good habits are the keys to all success.  Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure.  Thus, the first law I will obey, which precedes all others, is—I will form good habits and become their slave.

Og Mandino, The Greatest Salesman in the World

There are many people who are happy to tell you what you need to do in order to be successful.  There are also thousands of ways to be successful in all sorts of businesses, professions, and more.  While knowledge and information about what you need to do is required in order to be successful, the important thing is focusing on what you need to do consistently in order to be successful.  What actions you need to take on a consistent basis to be successful.

There are people in the world who talk about and hope that they will achieve certain results in their lives and there are those who just go out and achieve those results.  There are lots of people out there who are happy to talk about what they would like to see happen in their lives.  Most of these people are on the sidelines of life.  The difference between what separates people who achieve what they want in life and those who merely talk about what they want is habit.

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